Friday, August 12, 2011

How to Kiss a Girl

Kiss a Girl

The main problem that guys face when trying to kiss a girl is knowing if they are ready to kiss them. Get the timing wrong, and things will turn really awkward. Get it right, and well you will know. Here's how you can increase your odds. But, if you know they are ready then things will go well!

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    Use a nice, romantic spot. Girls will think it's amazingly romantic when the first kiss is at sunset, an empty grassy meadow under the stars, a deck on a lake at night, on the beach, on a paddle boat at a friends pond at night, at the park or a private camp fire, on a rooftop. Usually early dawn, sunrise, sunset, or midnight scenes can be considered lovely. But it doesn't have to be a typical romantic scene. Just make sure you are sincere in what you are doing. A couch at one of your houses will do as long as you're alone. Pop in a movie you both like and let the fun begin. The key thing is to make sure you are both comfortable and alone.

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    If you are sitting together, make sure there is not too much space between you two. When the time comes, you will not want to have to scoot closer in order to reach her; it might feel awkward then. Go ahead and put your arm around her. Pull her close and snuggle her.Not only does this make it easier for you to lean into her for the kiss, it is a good way to break the touch barrier if it hasn't already been broken, and you can see her reaction to you. If she smiles or doesn't try to shake your arm off, she is ready.
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    Get her in the mood. Go ahead and put your arm around her. Pull her close and snuggle her. Not only does this begin to get her in the mood for a kiss, it makes it easier for you to lean into her for the kiss, and it is a good way to break the touch barrier if it hasn't already been broken. You will know when she is in the mood if she snuggles you back, scoots closer, or flirts with you in any other way.
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    Prepare for the kiss. Remember your five senses:
    • Sight. You have to look good. This means shave if you have to. (Unless stubble or other facial hair is your usual style. Be warned though, stubble might irritate your girlfriend during a kiss) Also, here are some tips for casual dress: AĆ©ropostale and Abercrombie & Fitch are always good brand-name choices for shirts and jackets, although they're not necessary. Also, wear good looking pants. If it's summer, wear shorts. (Make sure they at least go down to your knees! No girl likes looking seeing guys in short-shorts.) If it's winter, wear some jeans. (Once again, make sure they're not too short. Ankles aren't fun to look at either)
    • Smell. Make sure your breath smells good. Mints and gum helps. Brush your teeth often and use mouthwash! If you are somewhere you can, get a glass of water and take a swig before going in for the kiss. But breath isn't the only thing that needs to smell good. You should too. This doesn't necessarily mean you need to wear cologne, although that can help if it is good-smelling, quality cologne. If you don't have cologne or you don't want to wear it, just make sure you shower and deodorize just before the date. Use manly soaps and deodorants like Old Spice or Axe. (Old Spice is a favorite of the ladies)
    • Sound. Make conversation and make sure she is comfortable being around you before you try to kiss her. Make a few jokes, although make sure not to ruin the mood by treating everything as a joke.
    • Taste. When it comes to the kiss, make sure you don't have bad breath because if you do, it will not be enjoyable for your girlfriend to have to taste it too. Also you might want to consider wearing lip balm. Don't wear anything with color, just something to give her something to enjoy tasting when she kisses you.
    • Touch. Be sure that a kiss isn't the first time you touch your girlfriend. If you get the chance, hold her hand, hug her, snuggle her, or play with her hair. All of them can ensure that you get her in the mood. (When I say play with her hair I don't mean giving her a new hairdo, nor petting her head. Run your fingers through her hair starting at the top and going down. And don't only touch her hair. Run your fingers along her head, neck, and back, just using her hair as an excuse to touch her)
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    Go for it! To begin, eye contact is a must. If she is not already facing you, get her attention by playing with her hair or something. If she doesn't look up at you, then use one of your hands to hold her face and turn it towards you. Then start to lean in. Look into her eyes and once she looks into yours, glance down at her lips to let her know what is coming. If she doesn't stop you now, she doesn't plan on it, so be confident. But go slowly!! Don't try to rush in and plant a sneak-attack on her. While you get closer, gauge her reaction. See if she is leaning in too, or closing her eyes. Then slowly close your eyes and part your lips slightly. If you're not already holding her, reach out gently and put your hand on the back of her neck or on her face.
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    When your lips touch, be gentle. Don't pucker up like you're kissing your mom; just poke your lips out a little bit to prevent teeth clashing. Don't make them too stiff though. They have to feel as soft to her lips do to yours. Just be natural. Once you have kissed her for a few seconds, pull back. (Four seconds is generally a good time, but don't ruin the kiss by counting) See if she wants more. (If it's done right, she will!) Look at her face and if she seems to have enjoyed it, go in for another. Then move on to longer, more passionate kisses. Keep going as long as you want. It doesn't have to be a make-out session, but if it turns out to be one, good for you! You're a good kisser.
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    Use your hands. Hold her or pull her closer if she is already in your arms. Run your hands up and down her back as you kiss. For girls, it tingles and makes the kiss that much more of a great sensation. And don't keep your hands still in the same place. Always keep one around her, but the other can roam and maybe run through her hair or caress her face.
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    When the kiss is over, don't act like it was awkward, even if it was. You don't have to say anything when it finishes. Just let it be done and thing about the next time you get to kiss her.
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    Keep in the mood some. Remain just a little touchy-feely after the kiss. You don't want to leave her not wanting more, or she might think she is a bad kisser, you dislike her, or you even want to break up with her. Stroke her back, her cheek, the back of her neck. Comb through her hair a bit. Keep in mind, gentle contact is a big turn-on for the ladies.
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    If you are young, then you don't want to disappoint her with just a kiss on the cheek. Kiss her on the lips. Draw back, smile at her. If she is responding positively, then go in again, this time using the mouth, opening the lips, and maybe adding some tongue action. Make sure the first kiss is in private, comfortable place, otherwise her mind might be elsewhere.
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    Many guys also worry about whether it is the right time, so here are some signs she may give (Although not always, if she's nervous or shy):
    • She won't pull away when you hold her hand or put your arm around her.
    • She will lean towards you, maybe even lay her head on your shoulder.
    • She'll smile when you say her name in a loving and compasionate tone.
    • She'll ask to meet you places.
    • She might seem a bit clingy at times.
    • She won't make you go away when she's upset with you. If anything, she'll want to hear you say "I love you," or "I'm so sorry," or "Can you forgive me?"
    • She will start conversations, make a joke, do things that guys do but like a girl.
    • She will glance at you, and quickly looking away when you see her.
    • She will blush when you talk to her.
    • She will bite her lip.
    • She will lick her lips a lot. (Not in a sexy flirty way, but unconsciously, because her lips might dry up if she is nervous)
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    Don't be afraid to catch it. Sometimes, you just never know when it's the right time. Girls can be very closed at times, so she may not be giving you all the warning signs that she wants to be kissed. Sometimes, signals that usually mean she isn't open to physical contact (such as crossed arms, looking away, etc.) may mean that she is just nervous (especially if she's never kissed a guy, or maybe not kissed many guys, so she is inexperienced) and isn't sure what to do, or how to make the first move. If this is what she is doing, you will simply have to rely on your male instincts.
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    If this doesn't work, and she seems surprised or embarrased that you kissed her (in an uncomfortable way) then don't freak out. Everyone messes up, and it's not the end of the world if this one girl doesn't like you. It gave you some experience on dealing with shy girls. You shouldn't feel bad, or ashamed of yourself for kissing her. Instead, feel proud that you braved up to a shy girl and tried your best! There's always more fish in the sea. If she is unusally mean or rude and rants on to all of her friends about how you "kissed her" and laughs as you walk by, look her straight in the eye, roll your eyes and say "Grow up". You don't want to be with someone like that anyway. In 9 out of 10 cases however, she will simply move on. She may like it (if she was nervous) and you can ask her out again on another night! Good luck!

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